No doubt experiencing instant or an episode of trauma can be destabilising. It takes a little bit to steady yourself and then decide what to do.

Freudian psychologists such as all those referenced in the article encourage you to believe that you have a right to feel traumatised and to have others appreciate your predicament. That serves most people’s goals and that’s then what they do. And that’s when all the “effects of trauma” you list in tour article start to take their toll.

Those effects are not the natural and inevitable result of the trauma, they are the result of how people perceive their experience and their underlying belief system.

What happens to their body and mind is the result of a value judgement about themselves. That’s not to say they do not feel the pain and suffering and that it is not real. It is real. But it is still a choice. They have chosen to live in line with some goal that suits them.

You note that some people can move past their “trauma”. Contrary to popular belief you do not have to relive it, to be reborn, to admit it or confess it. Admittedly, that’s an easily understandable causality and sense of dramatic development creates strong impressions and is extremely attractive — and keeps psychologists in a job.

The meaning you give a trauma is self-determining. You make of it whatever suits your goals at in the present moment. When your goal is to move on and to be self-reliant then you will move on. You will stop harming your mind and body.

Blaming others, seeking recognition, continuing to harm your body and mind is a choice. You are the only one who can change yourself, and you can do it with everything you know today — no need to climb through the wreckage of past events. Unless that serves your goals.

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