One of my family members who passed away recently from cancer used to complain to me about how annoying it was when people would come to visit her and say, “Everything’s going to be okay.” She didn’t want to hear that because for one thing, she actually didn’t feel okay, and also, becaus…
You’ll be ok, you’ll fight it
I had the same feelings recently. Three weeks ago my GP was concerned that my cancer had returned. I told just a few people.
Some replied along the lines “you’ll be ok, you’ll fight it”.
I know that it was meant to be encouraging and positive but it just feels totally unrealistic and meaningless. At this stage, I had no idea of the form of the cancer and what lay ahead.
Any consequences were completely unknown.
As it turned out my surgeon reviewed the recent findings and my whole history since surgery and declared that at this stage I just need annual testing.
That’s a relief.
So what would I suggest people say? I think something like “oh that’s bad news, do let me know when you find out more and I hope it turns out OK”.